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So my gf has a stalker

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PoWdA

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So this dude and her kinda dating back when I met her about 6 years ago. After she stopped talking to him he would call her 10 times a day and text her every 20 minutes for around a year. It was sad. We tried to get a restraining order but it wouldn't happen because he never threatened her. He smashed out the window in my car (can't prove it but we know he did) and stole shit from her. We could never prove anything and eventually she had to change her number. Back in November my gf made the mistake of accepting his friend request and he has restarted with the messaging. It was the holidays and he sent her a long apology and in the spirit she responded saying that she hopes his family is good and he has a good holiday. Now he is in full blown stalker mode with the FB messages. Here is a message I sent from her account. Do you think it gets the point across?

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With that type of history, she should have had a completely BLOCKED FB page (to the point where only SHE could search and find friends). Not only that, never ever should have accepted friend request. This guy is obviously emotionally unstable and should be avoided at all costs. I've seen this activity before and the fact that he (allegedly) busted out a car window just shows the unstableness of this person's nature.

The message seems frank and to the point, but if it doesn't do the trick then you will (again) have to go to lengths to digitally hide her again. You should have said "Sincerely, her husband". Idk maybe put something in this guys mind that she is permanently off the market.

If it continues, kick his ass like its the fuckin end of the world. :)

***Disclaimer: This is only my opinion and should be taken with a grain of salt. One should not harm another person unless someone is in grave danger***
 
I agree with everything shaun said except for the kick his ass part. You kick his ass and who knows what he'll do next. My honest opinion? Digitally scrub her from the interwebs. From now till forever she (and you) need to be very selective about what information about you goes public. Get away from this person fucking asap
 
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I agree with everything shaun said except for the kick his ass part. You kick his ass and who knows what he'll do next. My honest opinion? Digitally scrub her from the interwebs. From now till forever she (and you) need to be very selective about what information about you goes public. Get away from this person fucking asap
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Yeah I agree as well, that was her mess up (letting him be her friend/responding to him). I am an Information Security major, I know about locking down FB pages and the risks of putting info out there very well :)

I left this one open to see his reaction and scan his FB. Apparently he has a family of his own now and a kid so not too worried. He was never really a thread at any time. He already replied saying he was sorry and he would stop.

Just having fun with the psycho!
 
im with shaun. save the ass beating for last of course lol. but i always keep that on the table, my current gf of over 3 years, ive dealt with similar shit with her ex's and it came to me having to threaten them to get it to stop. luckily it stopped there.
 
Block him....

by messaging him u just fueled the fire, especially the way you worded it and then signed it "her boyfriend". Then again you seem intelligent so i imagine u knew that....
 
You need to report him to FaceBook. Confronting him will not help to alleviate the problem. It will only fuel his twisted resolve for getting attention. A risky tactic would be to goad him into making a mistake...making a recordable threat. While a threat will get you a restraining order a documented threat made via an electronic device ie. cell phone, phone, text, computer etc makes it an act of terrorism, at least here in CA, and that, good sir, is a felony. And if he goes so far as to violate the restraining order then he is more likely to be picked up. Having a friend in the local police, or County Sheriff's Dept. depending on where you live, can go a long way towards making this happen. Now, While I'm a strong proponent for taking care of one's own shit, ie kicking the ass of said dickweed, sometimes it's just a hell of a lot less trouble for you if you go through the proper legal channels early in the game. He's not worth you getting yourself in trouble over this and ultimately any shenanigans on your part will diminish your case in the eyes of any court.
peace
 
From a past private NSFW thread, I think you'd become a stalker too if things ended. :inlove:
 
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